So I got a subtle (OK, not-so-subtle) reminder from my mother-in-law today about babies.
In the country where my husband is from, people often wonder what’s wrong if the married couple hasn’t ushered forth new progeny within a year of the wedding.
As it so happens, we missed that deadline.
Now these extended relatives are beginning to badger my mother-in-law about us on a regular basis.
“I’m ready to be a grandma!” she told us on the phone. “I have been very quiet about it until now. I know you’re waiting, but I won’t be sorry to be a grandma.”
She tells these relatives that we are waiting to have children, but many of them don’t understand why, she reports.
“They are praying for you to have a baby!” she said. “And I tell them, ‘No need to pray. It will happen when they’re ready.’ But they tell me they are praying for you. I can’t see them now without them going into prayer mode.”
Now I come from a more child-cautious cultural background that can see people easily waiting two years or longer before starting a family.
So I have a question for you, dear reader (apart from: Have you seen people going into prayer mode?).
What is your ideal time schedule for having a baby (assuming you don’t already have one or more)?
Multicultural Marriage 