My name is Jennifer, and I’m married to Sam – a wonderful, godly man from an African nation. In 2013 we had our first baby, a daughter. We live in the U.S. and are learning more about multicultural marriages as we go. 🙂
We’re part of a number of people who have discovered the joys of multicultural unions. Check out this Huffington Post article:
… there has been a major jump in interracial marriage rates from 1980 – the first year from which rich Census data on interracial marriage are publicly available – when just 3 percent of married couples were mixed-race (the last U.S. anti-miscegenation laws were lifted in 1967). In 2010, 1 in 12 married couples in the U.S. were interracial couples, reports the Pew Center.”
If you’re one of these couples, are from a multicultural background, or just interested in learning more about other cultures, I’d love to hear from you! Write a comment, share your story, whatever you please – but I should explain a few guidelines:
- Keep it civil. No insults, slurs or libel, or else comments will be removed.
- Keep it safe. Both my husband and my dad are privacy czars. They shred envelopes, encrypt flash drives and check every shopping website for the little “padlock” before buying. So please don’t share info on the Internet unless you want the whole world to know.
- Keep it short. If you have a lot to say, email me: multiculturalmarriage at gmail dot com. (You might also want to comment on my site to remind me that you sent something, if I don’t respond in two weeks.) I’ll be more than happy to consider using your story as a future blog post, giving you full credit!
Another note if you’re new – I’ve tried to organize this blog’s navigation under common areas of life that I think every multicultural couple deals with at some time or another. They are:
- Ways of life (which include communicating/relating techniques and faith/values). No matter how hard you study each other before marriage, you just don’t know how much you don’t know about the other person! Check out my popular “How to determine if multicultural marriage is right for you” for more info about our ways of life, and whether they apply to your situation.
- Family matters. Marriage isn’t just two people coming together. To some extent, it involves two families coming together … and sometimes that brings conflict! However, we’re blessed to have two supportive families who have great senses of humor and have given us unconditional love and encouragement. We’re not perfect by any means, but no human family is. As we continue to honor and love our extended family, we also keep in mind that we’re our own family unit, free to make our own choices (and also, we hope, responsible enough to make the right ones!).
- Overseas travel. With family scattered all around the globe, this one is a must! It certainly broadens your horizons, but it can also be hard on the family wallet. Check out my post on cutting air travel costs and see whether you can use any of those tips (or add your own!).
- Food/cuisine. I’m an unabashed foodie, which stands me in good stead when trying anything new at least once. If your in-laws set before you a steaming bowl of ogbono stew, for example, it’s a good idea to try a little bit first even if you think it looks like puke (it tastes gorgeous, by the way!). My pet theory is that adventurous eaters are great candidates for a successful multicultural marriage. 🙂
- Finances. This is a delicate topic across all cultures, and we’ve encountered more than our fair share of issues/questions/problems/etc. regarding it. (See just a few of them here.) But the most important thing we’ve found is to be united as much as possible on our spending, saving and giving policies within our nuclear family, which gives us the teamwork and problem-solving skills necessary to tackle any financial problems as they arise.
Thanks, and enjoy!